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It has been a week of mixed emotions as change seems to be in the air, hovering in sweeping circles overhead. I’ve decided that this is going to be my last ‘Purple Project Post’ as I believe I am entering into a new season, with the colour orange leading the way.

The purple journey has been fascinating on so many levels, as I’ve come to better value myself as ‘The Purple Princess’, Visualizing who I am through the eyes of God, who I very much believe in.  It has given me a greater awareness of where I have come from and where I should be heading. A growing confidence to stand my ground, love myself more and say no to others has not always been comfortable, yet the rewards are there, perhaps not clearly visible for all to see, but they are there.

Seasons come and go and with them new colours and shades fill our earth. The purple flowering plants that have brought me so much insight and pleasure over the last few weeks, have been replaced with yellows and orange. Cheery spring flowerings, whispering new life, and future expectations.

I’m not sure where this journey is headed next, but I think I’d better go and find the orange nail polish.

© Sandie’s Snippets 2012

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Retail therapy is said to hold great healing powers for many and while it is not one of my obsessions, I do once in a while, see something that captures my eye. A few weeks ago it was a bright orange bag. I gave it the serious once over and even lined up a top that could tie in with the colour, then put everything back and repeated the process again around 10 days later.

This week I was browsing through the junk mail when I noticed summer sandals were on special from Wednesday. Eager to get in quick and check out supplies, I did my assessment of the situation on Tuesday. There before me were orange sandals, a perfect match for the bag. My heart did a little flutter as I took those shoes to the bag and they just cried out to be together, the fact that it was the last day to get 20% off bags seemed like an opportunity not to be missed.

Now I am the proud owner of an orange handbag and pair of sandals, they even match the wonderful spring poppies that are flowering in my garden. I’m realising it’s a colour that brings a smile to my face and as I write this the setting sun has just bathed my dining room in a warm orange glow. Truly spectacular.

I can sense a change is in the air. Is it an act of rebellion from a ‘Purpled Out Princess’, or am I transitioning to a new colour?

Let’s see where this project is going next.

© Sandie’s Snippets 2012

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Let Me disappoint You – Daring to say, ‘NO.’

It has been an interesting week as I have embarked to follow Cheryl Richardson’s advice in her book ‘The Art of Extreem Self Care. I don’t think I have said ‘no’ to anybody and as such have not made them angry at all (a bit of a relief really). This has been no small achievement, as we have been away and had a most enjoyable long weekend, with another four couples.

Twice a year we make the break, pool our resources and rent a large house just metres from the Indian Ocean. We delight in sitting on the shoreline to watch the sun set for the day, while our men folk Bar-B-Que and we ladies  seem to have perfected the art of throwing together salads and create a banquet fit for a king.

Rain threatened to spoil our time together, but a supply of jigsaws and games had us frantically searching for elusive puzzle pieces, challenged on the Scrabble board, and Rummikub saw us numerically scratching our heads.

My only problem person was me, myself and I. When chocolate was open and left on a plate I couldn’t say no. Cheeses of the yummiest quality, whispered into my ear and I couldn’t say no. Over indulgence and the word gluttony springs to mind but I am up early (confessing all) and planning to head out the door and walk the hills before 6.30am.

I think I need to head back to Cheryl Richardson’s mirror session in the last chapter, look deep into my eyes and tell the woman who stares back at me, that she loves lettuce and long walks.

Have a great week everyone.

© Sandie’s Snippets 2012

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Well, I have survived chapters one and two and am now up to the third month of Cheryl Richardson’s book, ‘The Art of Self Care’. Bracing myself for yet another month of extreme challenges, I read the name of the chapter, ‘Let Me Disappoint You’. When I read the second paragraph there was no holding back, I burst out laughing, as it said I should aim to make one person angry every day.

WHAT, ME! Good old me. I’m a peace keeper, I don’t rock the boat, I keep a level head (well most of the time anyway).

It seems, as I read the whole chapter that my problem is all of the above. I do attempt to keep the peace, I agree to do things that are expected of me (even if I really don’t want to do them) and I control my responses, so that those around me will continue to like me.

In my defence, I would say I have improved over the years and only recently said no to my being nominated for a voluntary post, that would have been a position of honour. Once upon a time I would have grabbed it with both hands, seeing the role as an affirmation of my value and worth.

The whole chapter outlines how to disappoint people the right way without creating elaborate excuses. How to tell the truth with honestly, letting other people down with respect and care.

Boy oh boy. This is going to be an interesting month. I’d keep your distance if I was you, or you may find you’re on my hit list.

© Sandie’s Snippets 2012

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Last week my husband I celebrated our wedding anniversary. As I looked at our wedding photos I was transported back to that day and reminded of all the hopes and dreams I had of becoming a wife and mother. Homemaking was considered a worthy position back then, and my skills from those dress up days, saw me contentedly playing house for real.

As time progressed, I juggled part-time then full-time work, around my growing family. Days were long, hard and exhausting, but somewhere in amongst it all, the role that I cherished so much, became eroded away and turned into a chore. It may be like that for many woman – I really don’t know – because I’ve not asked or brought the subject up.

Part of my search to reclaim my identity through ‘The Purple Project’, has seen me actively restoring some of those chores, back into their rightful position.  I’ve been baking new recipes from aged cookbooks, managed to decorate our bedroom, kept the bills paid up to date and done the grocery shopping with a smile on my face (not easy when prices keep leaping higher than an olympic athletes).

As I take a step back and look in, I can say with all honesty, I have a blessed life. My time schedules have to be managed well, but I actively participate in volunteer programmes, belong to a creative writing group and am pursuing my goal of writing something worth publishing.

A positive attitude and hard work reaps its rewards or so I am told.

After last weeks ‘Mirror Mirror’ story, I am pleased to report, that when I looked at myself in the mirror the other evening I said, ‘ Boy, you look rather pretty tonight Mrs S’. Then I was taken out to a lovely little restaurant with a bottle of bubbly, for a beautiful meal, with the man I married 38 years ago. Who said romance was dead and buried?

© Sandie’s Snippets 2012

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‘Mirror, Mirror on the Wall’, is the title of chapter two in Cheryl Richardson’s book, ‘The Art of extreme Self Care – Transforming Your Life One Month at a Time’. It details the concept of looking into a mirror on a daily basis and telling myself, ‘I love you Sandie’. I can tell you with all honesty, I was squirming at the thought of attempting this just the once, without trialing it for the whole month.

‘My self esteem may need a bit of tweaking from time to time,’ I thought to myself, ‘but hey, I’m not the shy timid person that people use to tease or bully anymore. Am I?’

I have had a bit of a rude awakening. It is a hard exercise to accomplish. Try it for yourself, if you don’t believe me.

The line, ‘Fake it until you make it,’ came to mind as I realised I am not as confident as I thought I was. Compliments, while always welcome, are not necessarily absorbed the way they should be. Those critical comments of my childhood, having created a tougher skin than I ever imagined.

We use our mirrors all the time for personal grooming, but the act of looking intently into our own eyes is a very intimate act. We can see our own flaws and weaknesses in an instance and feel uncomfortable accepting ourselves with the unconditional love that we should.

The final three sentences of the chapter have pushed me on in this challenge.

‘This experience does take time, so don’t worry if it seems hard. You’ll have a whole month to practice, and there’s no need to rush. For now, just show up and allow yourself to get comfortable with this new level of connection and intimacy.

(c) ‘The Art of extreme Self Care – Transforming Your Life One Month at a Time’. Cheryl Richardson’s. 2009

I have been turning up. It has been an up hill challenge. I have also pulled some wonderful faces at myself to lighten the mood. I’m just happy not to be on a Disney set, where the mirror talks back or have Big Brother watching. If I had, I think they might have been booked me into a nice facility by now, with all meals and medication provided.

© Sandie’s Snippets 2012

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For new followers of this blog, I decided back in July to set out on a new journey of self discovery. I have found it both challenging and rewarding. Let me introduce you to my first ‘Purple Project Post’, so you can get a bit of an idea.

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The Purple Project. Week 1

It is said that purple can represent royalty, with darker hues suggesting magic and mystery. As a woman I would like to be treated as a princess and a little bit of magic and mystery can go a long way, when it comes to achieving our life goals.

What does the princess do though, when she forgets how precious she is? When the regal purple robes turn to drab shades of grey and the tiara that is supposed to be on her head, is lost to the dress up box of childhood memories?

This is the dilemma many of us find ourselves in.

I recently decided to reclaim my rightful throne, dress in something purple every day and reinvent myself, by bringing this rich colour into my life. It is amazing how much purple I actually have in my wardrobe, once I take a look.

Some days you may have to look hard to see it, but it will be there. Sometimes on show, sometimes hidden.

Let ‘The Purple Project’ begin.

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As I head into week nine of this adventure, I have experianced a whole range of thoughts and emotions. Things that I percieved might happen have not, yet some unexpected treasures are presenting themselves in such creative ways, that I am enjoying the thrill of expectancy.

I do have one tale to tell though, the day I forgot to wear purple. A recent trip to get my car checked out after a re-call, saw me rushing out of the house early in the morning to allow plenty of time for traffic. It was as I wandered the shops (well a girl has to do something for the two hours wait), that I realized in my haste, I was not wearing anything purple.

Now I knew that the world was not about to collapse on me, but a little panic set in and I just happened to walk past a clearance rack of scarfs. One miraculously jumped into my hands and before I knew it, it was paid for and around my neck. (Well that’s my excuse and I am sticking to it.) Not wanting to make the same mistake again, I have now painted my toe nails a rich, dark purple. If the weather continues to warm up they may even get to be seen.

It is an incredible journey that I find myself on and I am starting to wonder. What would happen if I coloured my world green or orange? But that might be a whole new story.

© Sandie’s Snippets 2012

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